In my last article, I talked about finding a Vietnamese girl for a marriage or a long-term relationship.
Of course, this is just the first step. Then you have to go through the exhausting dating phase. If you do a good job and build an attraction, you will both end up in a relationship.
But you should be aware that knowledge of girls from traditional countries such as Vietnam differs markedly from the West. Her friend has probably grown up in a conservative way, and her parents and extended family want other values than you’re used to.
And if you’ve never lived in Vietnam or out with dating a vietnamese girl, finding your way around this water will be very difficult. Unfortunately, many relationships have ended because of trivial cultural misunderstandings. Misunderstandings that could be resolved with the right information or guidance.
But don’t be afraid. I can help you! I have lived in Vietnam for many years and have a lot of experience with how the local dating culture works. In addition, I have had a successful relationship with a Vietnamese woman for more than 1.5 years.
As a result, I have decided to share my knowledge and experience of dating in Vietnam.
Welcome to the ultimate guide to getting to know Vietnamese!
Dating with a Vietnamese girl
So you got the number and started talking to a beautiful Vietnamese girl? It is fantastic! But how should you go next?
The first question is probably about the place of dating. I recommend that you just invite them over for a cup of coffee. Never invite them for a drink on the first date as this is uncomfortable for most girls. Most “good” Vietnamese girls never drink alcohol, and the girls drink very little.
Also, do not take her to dinner on her first date. This will eradicate all the “gold diggers” who are just looking for a free meal.
In the unlikely event that she does not have a motorcycle, the question may arise whether or not to pay for her transport. First, it is important to understand that most young girls in Vietnam do not make much money. We talk from $ 150 to $ 300 a month. Even a $ 2 to $ 5 taxi is a huge burden for her. So when the question arises, just order her an Uber or Grab. If she insists on getting her own taxi and you pay it later, politely say no.
Most Vietnamese girls speak only limited English, and many language problems may arise during the appointment. One solution is to use a translation application such as the popular Google Translate. The added benefit of using a translation program is that you have an excuse to sit next to it and that you can escalate by easy touch (AKA Cinema).
Subsequent data and conditions
The other day, it’s okay to invite her to dinner or even some drinks. You still need to have control over the site. If she really likes you, she should be interested in you, not the type of locality you lead her to. If you want to be brought to expensive restaurants or bars, say no politely and suggest something else instead.
Also, remember that Vietnam is a patriarchal society. Your Vietnamese friend expects you to go ahead and make the most final decisions. If you are not determined or show weakness, it can lose respect for you, resulting in a disastrous relationship. Listen to their needs, make your decisions and follow them!
After all, most Vietnamese girls do not feel comfortable when it comes to showing love or emotion in public, such as kissing and hugging. She can even turn her head away when you try to kiss her outside. Therefore, the public is probably limited to holding hands, especially at the beginning of the relationship.
Meet your family
If your family invites you to their home for dinner, it means you have a fairly serious relationship.
At family dinners, it is common for the oldest family member to pick up chopsticks and start eating first. It shows respect. While eating, you can also serve food to other people. This shows that you are concerned and the Vietnamese really appreciate it. Even if you welcome an older family member, do it
Red flags and warning signs
Let’s briefly mention some red flags when we talked about dating and relationship advice. By red flags I mean warning signs that she may have other intentions of the relationship or that she is not relationship material at all:
1. When the money comes up, go away immediately. There may be questions about your salary indicating that she needs money for the study, a new dress, or sick relatives who need expensive surgery.
2. If she returns to her hotel room after the first date, she is probably not the kind of girl who has a serious long-term relationship. But if you’re just looking for a short-lived way out, grab it!
3. Be very careful when she has a strained relationship with her parents. In Vietnamese culture, family is very important and this can be a symptom of some serious problems that will emerge at some point in your relationship!
4. Other warning signs are excessive alcohol consumption, too much time on social media and excessive jealousy. While these things should not automatically disqualify a girl, it is worth remembering.
Where can I find a good Vietnamese girl?
The most convenient way to meet Vietnamese girls is an online dating service. You can sit well at home and talk to hundreds of beautiful girls. The main advantage of online dating is that you do not have to be in Vietnam. You can talk to the girls before your trip or even invite them to your home country if you do not want to travel yourself.
But a word of caution. Some girls have made a “career” by meeting foreigners online, and I will not consider this relationship material for girls. Especially in the Tinder app, there are many of these “bad” girls and gold diggers, and some friends have even stopped using tinder for just these reasons.
A much better place to meet Vietnamese girls online is Vietnam Cupid. There I met my current boyfriend. The biggest difference for Tinder is that Vietnam Cupid has far more traditional, normal girls who are serious about finding a relationship. Especially with a western man!